The Real Tanya Chadwick

So if I say to you, any one of you that may not feel as comfortable as I am with all people, just be yourself!  I am hopeful that you can appreciate that we are all just people.  We all eat food, drink fluids, take showers/baths, wear clothing for covering/fashion/protection, sleep/eat/breathe etc… you get my meaning here.  They used to tell us in speech class to picture the audience in their underwear if you were nervous.  Well for me, that was not something I could envision.  For each of us there is that little something that gives us that boost of extra confidence we need in order to approach an uncomfortable situation.  That thing that we reach way deep down inside and pull forward just in time so that we can ask that question we really wanted to ask, before it becomes too late. Rather than thinking of these business people that are making it big on the Internet as Gurus, try and realize, they are just people, just real people doing real business on the Internet.  They were just like you and me at one point as well.  Most of them are very humble and down to earth if you take the time to listen and interact with them.  Sure they make big bucks now (according to them or their screen shots or whatever “proof” you need/believe).  Is that what makes you want to meet those Gurus?  Do you believe that if you meet these Big Boys, these internet marketing Gurus that the money will come your way?  That you will be more popular?  That you will be more liked?  That you will have more authority in what you have chosen to do online? The Internet brings forth amazing opportunities for anyone wanting to do business online.  After that decision, the Internet should never be thought of as any different than when you do business offline in a more traditional sense (storefront, etc.)  You would naturally be networking as a business person.  You would naturally be sharing with all potential customers what you have to offer them to meet their needs.  You would be confident that what you have to offer will meet the need of the customer who walked in off of the street.  Keep those thoughts in mind for your online business, always! My intentions for writing this came from perceptions of a great many of the people I was blessed to meet and visit with at Mass Control 2.  It was such an honor to meet each and every one of you.  I genuinely look forward to connecting with you whenever it is possible. Hug and smiling always to you all. Most Sincerely, Tanya Chadwick

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For about the past 18months I have learned by reading on the Internet what Guru kind of means.  Before deciding to do a business online, I had not really even heard the term.  Now after attending Mass Control 2, The Event put on by The Real Frank Kern, I have seen the phenomena in play.  Most people flock to the Gurus or want to be just like them, almost as it was in High School by wanting to be friends with the popular people, the in crowd.  My experience in life which has been a great deal of human/public interaction is that people are just people, period. I went to Mass Control 2 knowing I would make sure and take full advantage of the opportunity that was being offered to me.  Maybe for some of the people attending, they were in hopes to at least meet some of these Gurus.  For me, I made a point to have natural conversation with everyone that I encountered.  I did not differentiate between those “Big Boys”, those “Gurus” because that is not who or what or how my personal being thinks or feels or reacts.  However, I must point out right now, I do understand it and I am not discounting it in any way if you are a person that has difficulty approaching people in general. I remember as a little girl one of my families friends asking, “Tanya, what do you want to be when you grow up?”.  I thought for a brief time (and I was around 6yrs.old) and I said, “I want to be beautiful!”.  I have always reflected on that time and realized that at times I may not have thought myself beautiful, however by most I am perceived as such because I am always smiling!  Because I am always making eye contact.  Because I am always listening.  Because I engage in a conversation that allows, “ALLOWS”, the other parties to feel comfortable sharing.  I also understand that this is not a natural ability for all people. Each person is a unique individual and they each have their own unique gift.  Something that they know within maybe only themselves that they do well.  Maybe some have not yet discovered that special something.  I am blessed to have discovered the ability to genuinely communicate and effectively listen at a very young age.  I know without a doubt that that is a special gift given to me.  I have NEVER taken advantage of it.  People are fragile human beings, tender (even the biggest Guru gets his feelings hurt if someone says something offensive or ignores them, they just don’t show it). I grew up working in the family business’s from age 6 thru 16.  We were forced to deal with the public at large, as it were.  We had no choices.  Of course I enjoyed it.  The whole customer service thing was a no brainer for me because I loved helping people.  I loved being able to address a need and filling that need by my own actions, my knowledge of what needed to be taken care of.  My Mother and Father were elated to say the least and continued to give me more tasks, less supervision and more authority as well.  Even at an early age, my own parents recognized that I was able to be comfortable with all people.  If there was an angry or disgruntled client, one that of course could not pay their bill, my Father would be standing in the back listening (just in case he needed to come handle the situation) and over the years came to realize that Tanya could handle them all.  You may wonder why I would share that with you?  I genuinely believe that to feel comfortable with any person or situation, you have to be as comfortable or aware as you can. I was raised never to lie!  I can tell you that I do not lie, however, you have no basis of “proof” as is human nature to feel they need something.  All I can give you is by example, just as I have been to my children, my family, my friends and all of my business ventures throughout the years.  I am who I am and that is set in stone within me.  I will tell you what I have ingrained in my children over the years.  It takes way too much effort and energy to lie.  I do not have that extra time to keep track of the non truth that I spoke to so and so in order to repeat it or elaborate on it.  Honesty is not just the best policy, for me and mine, there is no other choice. Period. (continued in Part 2) So, as always Hugs and Smiles from The Real Tanya Chadwick Most Sincerely!

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