The Real Tanya Chadwick

The following was written by Ben Stein and recited by him on CBS Sunday Morning Commentary.

My confession : 

I am a Jew, and every single one of my ancestors was Jewish.  And it does not bother me even a little bit when people call those beautiful lit up, bejeweled trees, Christmas trees.  I don’t feel threatened.  I don’t feel discriminated against. That’s what they are:  Christmas trees. 

It doesn’t bother me a bit when people say, ‘Merry Christmas’ to me.  I don’t think they are slighting me or getting ready to put me in a ghetto.  In fact, I kind of like it. It shows that we are all brothers and sisters celebrating this happy time of year. It doesn’t bother me at all that there is a manger scene on display at a key intersection near my beach house in Malibu   If people want a crèche, it’s just as fine with me as is the Menorah a few hundred yards away. 

I don’t like getting pushed around for being a Jew, and I don’t think Christians like getting pushed around for being Christians.  I think people who believe in God are sick and tired of getting pushed around, period.  I have no idea where the concept came from that America is an explicitly atheist country.  I can’t find it in the Constitution and I don’t like it being shoved down my throat. 

Or maybe I can put it another way: where did the idea come from that we should worship celebrities and we aren’t allowed to worship God as we understand Him?  I guess that’s a sign that I’m getting old, too..   But there are a lot of us who are wondering where these celebrities came from and where the America we knew went to. 

In light of the many jokes we send to one another for a laugh, this is a little different:  This is not intended to be a joke;  it’s not funny, it’s intended to get you thinking. 

Billy Graham’s daughter was interviewed on the Early Show and Jane Clayson asked her ‘How could God let something like this happen?’ (regarding Katrina) Anne Graham gave an extremely profound and insightful response.  She said, ‘I believe God is deeply saddened by this, just as we are, but for years we’ve been telling God to get out of our schools, to get out of our government and to get out of our lives.  And being the gentleman He is, I believe He has calmly backed out.  How can we expect God to give us His blessing and His protection if we demand He leave us alone?’ 

In light of recent events… terrorists attack, school shootings, etc.  I think it started when Madeleine Murray O’Hare (she was murdered, her body found a few years ago) complained she didn’t want prayer in our schools, and we said OK.  Then someone said you better not read the Bible in school.  The Bible says thou shalt not kill, thou shalt not steal, and love your neighbor as yourself.  And we said OK. 

Then Dr. Benjamin Spock said we shouldn’t spank our children when they misbehave because their little personalities would be warped and we might damage their self-esteem (Dr Spock’s son committed suicide).  We said an expert should know what he’s talking about.  And we said OK.

Now we’re asking ourselves why our children have no conscience, why they don’t know right from wrong, and why it doesn’t bother them to kill strangers, their classmates, and themselves.

Probably, if we think about it long and hard enough, we can figure it out.  I think it has a great deal to do with ‘WE REAP WHAT WE SOW.’ 

Funny how simple it is for people to trash God and then wonder why the world’s going to hell.  Funny how we believe what the newspapers say, but question what the Bible says.  Funny how you can send ‘jokes’ through e-mail and they spread like wildfire but when you start sending messages regarding the Lord, people think twice about sharing.  Funny how lewd, crude, vulgar and obscene articles pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion of God is suppressed in the school and workplace. 

Are you laughing yet? 

Funny how when you forward this message, you will not send it to many on your address list because you’re not sure what they believe, or what they will think of you for sending it. 

Funny how we can be more worried about what other people think of us than what God thinks of us. 

Pass it on if you think it has merit..  If not then just discard it… no one will know you did.  But, if you discard this thought process, don’t sit back and complain about what bad shape the world is in.   

My Best Regards,  Honestly and respectfully,
Ben Stein

Note:  …and my point is to be Authentic and be who you are always, never trying to be somebody else. Do not try to emulate someone else. Be yourself, be genuine, be sincere, be authentic.

This is Tanya Chadwick and I am the Authentic Social Marketer!

Sincerely

Tanya Chadwick

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The hardest or most difficult thing about getting started with a business on the Internet is trying to discern what is real or Authentic.  I went from being one of those typical people who only used the internet to check my email and maybe look at a few sites of interest to digging way deep to find the answers to my concerns of starting a business on the internet.  Boy, talk about enlightening.  Be careful when you put a query into Google and then begin clicking on the links, you will get immersed for months trying to figure out a single definitive, when one does not exist.  In my search I finally realized that I needed to narrow down or filter out everything that was not Authentic …

I wasted hours reading way too many Internet Sales Pages or Squeeze pages as I now understand them to be.  In my reading however, something good came which was learning that there are real people doing real business on the Internet.  Through my meeting with Matthew Bredel I was able to learn about Jeff Walker who is the Product Launch Formula GURU.  At the time I had purchased that program I naively believed that IT was all I would need to Launch a business online.  That of course was only partly true.  I found I had purchased a very valueable program that was too advanced for me to even begin doing business online (YET)…

The great thing about Jeff Walker’s PLF 2.0 (that I purchased in 2008) is that he keeps his finger on the pulse of what is going on within the internet marketing World and keeps you as a PLF member updated as well.  I was honored to have met Jeff Walker at Mass Control 2 in San Diego this year and to listen to him speak at the conference.  This man is so passionate about his work and his knowledge of Product Launching is the ultimate in Authority.  I know without a doubt that I purchased the best of the best with regard to Launches and that it will always be there for me to utilize.

Most Sincerely,

Tanya Chadwick

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So if I say to you, any one of you that may not feel as comfortable as I am with all people, just be yourself!  I am hopeful that you can appreciate that we are all just people.  We all eat food, drink fluids, take showers/baths, wear clothing for covering/fashion/protection, sleep/eat/breathe etc… you get my meaning here.  They used to tell us in speech class to picture the audience in their underwear if you were nervous.  Well for me, that was not something I could envision.  For each of us there is that little something that gives us that boost of extra confidence we need in order to approach an uncomfortable situation.  That thing that we reach way deep down inside and pull forward just in time so that we can ask that question we really wanted to ask, before it becomes too late. Rather than thinking of these business people that are making it big on the Internet as Gurus, try and realize, they are just people, just real people doing real business on the Internet.  They were just like you and me at one point as well.  Most of them are very humble and down to earth if you take the time to listen and interact with them.  Sure they make big bucks now (according to them or their screen shots or whatever “proof” you need/believe).  Is that what makes you want to meet those Gurus?  Do you believe that if you meet these Big Boys, these internet marketing Gurus that the money will come your way?  That you will be more popular?  That you will be more liked?  That you will have more authority in what you have chosen to do online? The Internet brings forth amazing opportunities for anyone wanting to do business online.  After that decision, the Internet should never be thought of as any different than when you do business offline in a more traditional sense (storefront, etc.)  You would naturally be networking as a business person.  You would naturally be sharing with all potential customers what you have to offer them to meet their needs.  You would be confident that what you have to offer will meet the need of the customer who walked in off of the street.  Keep those thoughts in mind for your online business, always! My intentions for writing this came from perceptions of a great many of the people I was blessed to meet and visit with at Mass Control 2.  It was such an honor to meet each and every one of you.  I genuinely look forward to connecting with you whenever it is possible. Hug and smiling always to you all. Most Sincerely, Tanya Chadwick

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For about the past 18months I have learned by reading on the Internet what Guru kind of means.  Before deciding to do a business online, I had not really even heard the term.  Now after attending Mass Control 2, The Event put on by The Real Frank Kern, I have seen the phenomena in play.  Most people flock to the Gurus or want to be just like them, almost as it was in High School by wanting to be friends with the popular people, the in crowd.  My experience in life which has been a great deal of human/public interaction is that people are just people, period. I went to Mass Control 2 knowing I would make sure and take full advantage of the opportunity that was being offered to me.  Maybe for some of the people attending, they were in hopes to at least meet some of these Gurus.  For me, I made a point to have natural conversation with everyone that I encountered.  I did not differentiate between those “Big Boys”, those “Gurus” because that is not who or what or how my personal being thinks or feels or reacts.  However, I must point out right now, I do understand it and I am not discounting it in any way if you are a person that has difficulty approaching people in general. I remember as a little girl one of my families friends asking, “Tanya, what do you want to be when you grow up?”.  I thought for a brief time (and I was around 6yrs.old) and I said, “I want to be beautiful!”.  I have always reflected on that time and realized that at times I may not have thought myself beautiful, however by most I am perceived as such because I am always smiling!  Because I am always making eye contact.  Because I am always listening.  Because I engage in a conversation that allows, “ALLOWS”, the other parties to feel comfortable sharing.  I also understand that this is not a natural ability for all people. Each person is a unique individual and they each have their own unique gift.  Something that they know within maybe only themselves that they do well.  Maybe some have not yet discovered that special something.  I am blessed to have discovered the ability to genuinely communicate and effectively listen at a very young age.  I know without a doubt that that is a special gift given to me.  I have NEVER taken advantage of it.  People are fragile human beings, tender (even the biggest Guru gets his feelings hurt if someone says something offensive or ignores them, they just don’t show it). I grew up working in the family business’s from age 6 thru 16.  We were forced to deal with the public at large, as it were.  We had no choices.  Of course I enjoyed it.  The whole customer service thing was a no brainer for me because I loved helping people.  I loved being able to address a need and filling that need by my own actions, my knowledge of what needed to be taken care of.  My Mother and Father were elated to say the least and continued to give me more tasks, less supervision and more authority as well.  Even at an early age, my own parents recognized that I was able to be comfortable with all people.  If there was an angry or disgruntled client, one that of course could not pay their bill, my Father would be standing in the back listening (just in case he needed to come handle the situation) and over the years came to realize that Tanya could handle them all.  You may wonder why I would share that with you?  I genuinely believe that to feel comfortable with any person or situation, you have to be as comfortable or aware as you can. I was raised never to lie!  I can tell you that I do not lie, however, you have no basis of “proof” as is human nature to feel they need something.  All I can give you is by example, just as I have been to my children, my family, my friends and all of my business ventures throughout the years.  I am who I am and that is set in stone within me.  I will tell you what I have ingrained in my children over the years.  It takes way too much effort and energy to lie.  I do not have that extra time to keep track of the non truth that I spoke to so and so in order to repeat it or elaborate on it.  Honesty is not just the best policy, for me and mine, there is no other choice. Period. (continued in Part 2) So, as always Hugs and Smiles from The Real Tanya Chadwick Most Sincerely!

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